April 30, 2019

Wading in the deep end

I found him…or maybe he found me. The universe works in mysterious ways…actually, it was a mutual friend who decided to play matchmaker. With an 8-hour first date and a 4-hour second date, most would consider this a successful beginning, right?

Naturally, me being me, I couldn’t help but overthink this; what?! And yes, it’s mind-boggling to believe that one day you may meet Mr right, and then “poof,” he’s right there. It has definitely caught me off guard, finding myself in unchartered waters. So what’s the issue?

To be honest, there isn’t one. In fact, it seems to be the opposite, making me wonder, am I missing something? Yes, yes, I know, it’s called the honeymoon stage. I’ve googled and read seemingly everything on the topic of new relationships. How much do we disclose about our past? Do we share all of our details or spare the details? How much is too much? There seems to be some grey area surrounding this.

person feet dipping on pool

For me, it’s essential to be honest and authentic in a new relationship, finessing what I’ve learned from my past and keeping any drama out of it going forward.  And yes, I’ve learned a lot along the way. Being with my new someone, I certainly wasn’t prepared for the feeling of “I can’t get enough of him!” So, I ask again, how much is too much? Or, maybe too much is OK? I love that we’re both on the same page, doing what feels right and not getting caught up in everyone’s opinions. Keeping those outside voices at bay and seriously not giving an “F”:)

There are so many firsts when it comes to a new relationship, and getting to know my new someone has been a fantastic ride. Still, this is new territory. As I’m wading deeper into the relationship, there are a lot of thoughts, making my mind work a little overtime. To be clear, I’m not getting ahead of myself. We’re having fun, and seriously, isn’t that how it should be? It feels natural and effortless, and I can’t wish for anything more.

Like any relationship, it’s bound to come up; what about the “L” word? At some point, “I like you” isn’t going to cut it. So, then what? How do you know, or a better question is, do you need to know? In my previous blog, sometimes it’s a feeling, and no words need to be said. The truth is, I can definitely feel it.

Plunging into the deep end? No, I prefer wading in, and yes, it’s colder this way, but hey, it keeps you on your toes, and it’s invigorating. Isn’t that way more fun?



The comments +

  1. Chantal Branson says:

    So much this! And yay you. So happy for you. It’s THE best feeling.

  2. I believe the key word is ‘fun’, not getting in over your shoelaces. A certain someone has told me that once or twice. Experiencing a slower moving ecstasy myself.. and it feels gooooood. She feels just right for me.

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