What Do You Do?

There have been several instances recently where I’ve needed to explain, “I’m in transition”, then apologizing for the in-between stage of my life. We’ve all been asked the question, “what do you do?” which has been synonymous with “who are you?” immediately slotting you into a category or stereotype.

Unfortunately, society wants to know “what you do”, and this question isn’t going away anytime soon. It’s been a long journey for me, a lot of times feeling I didn’t add value and yet, it couldn’t be further from the truth, wanting to respond with “what haven’t I done?” I’m answering this question differently, making it a teachable moment, educating the person on the subject of me and not my title.

Several months ago, I purchased a new car, my experience was a rude awakening, or at least my new reality of “what do you do?”  For the first time, I was making a significant purchase without my spouse. To be clear, I don’t need my handheld, I can negotiate like the best of them, but explaining to the finance agent how I earn a living was a bit unnerving. I’ve been a stay at home mom, seemingly forever, while my husband’s career took him around the globe, I was CEO of the household, that was my “job”, and I’ve never thought twice about it.

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Staying home with kids was challenging at times, the “clients”, were sometimes hard to read, fussy and they definitely had their share of meltdowns.  I never received a paycheque or promotion, there were no board meetings, lunches or dinners and business travel wasn’t a thing. There were no performance reviews,  I learned as I went along, flying by the seat of my pants, occasionally giving myself a “hell yeah” for completing my tasks on time and then proceeding to throw a dinner party for eight. I’m grateful to have been there for those special moments, and yes, wiping runny noses too. My job as a parent is possibly the most rewarding, but it doesn’t define who I am.

I used to get my back up when asked, “what do you do?” I say, “bring it on”, I’m no longer afraid of the question. I’ve accomplished a lot in my life, and I’m more than happy to share my journey, hopes and my dreams because that’s who I am.  At the moment I don’t have a “title”, and for the first time, I’m ok with it.

Tell me about yourself…who are you and what makes you happy?







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