Too Young?

Here I am in the middle of the “dating” world, where you get to decide your criteria, customizing your wants and needs for a partner (sounds absurd).  How far will you travel for a relationship, religion or none,  tall or short or how old that person should be? For me personally, I feel the most comfortable with 5 years older and 5 years younger and I use that as a benchmark.  I’m not going to say “NO” to someone that’s 6 years younger, who’s hotter than hot, that would be crazy, right? But lately, the topic of conversation keeps coming up… how young is too young for women dating in their 40’or 50’s?  Careful…think hard and consider what you would do if you were in any other part of the world with no one to judge you.  Just to be CLEAR, I’m not inferring anything illegal, I’m talking about two consenting adults, who are motivated to have that epic May, September romance.  Look it up, it’s a thing BUT it’s usually younger women with older men.  I might add, younger women have been matched up with older men for centuries. So are times changing, or have I been out of the loop and I’m just realizing this now?  Older women are stereotyped or referred to as cougars, MILF’s and who knows what else, making us sound desperate, we’re not! Men, I’m calling you out…apparently, you don’t give it the slightest thought and I’m not here to judge, just trying to understand.  I’ve raised boys, both young adults, asking them “how would you feel if your friend showed up at the bar with his 30 something  girlfriend?”  Both responding that it would be weird “now” but the age gap would lessen as you got older…”

With only a handful of movies covering this subject matter, “Adore” is a film with Naomi Watts and Robin Wright, they take steamy and uncomfortably sexy to a whole other level…two lifelong friends fall in love with each other’s sons. This gives me an “EWE” feeling every time I think about this.  And let’s not forget the classics, “The Graduate” Anne Bancroft (Mrs Robinson) seducing a very young Dustin Hoffman, as well as,  “Summer of ’42” when Jennifer O’neal’s character seduces an adolescent boy after finding out her husband was killed in action during WW2.  Are these movies creepy or just crazy love stories? Should there be boundaries when it comes to love?  I can hear you all freaking on the other end….I’m just the messenger, does age matter?!

Look, I’m not discussing anything that hasn’t been discussed, this is coming from me, new to this dating and relationship stuff with my eyes wide open…

Are we really about free love, opening our hearts to whatever will be will be? I find the topic interesting and I have heard MANY opinions, from “that’s crazy” to ” if you’re into each other, why not?”  I won’t try to solve this but it does make me think about partners going forward.  LOL..me being me, I’ll stay close to what I know best, making young at heart a much better option!

LC

xo