“dolce far niente”

Ah… to be a kid again, this photo of my “much younger” boys, depicts the true essence of literally doing nothing.  So much fun, it was a gorgeous hot day,  the remedy was to stay cool, so let’s put patio chairs on our heads and blast the sprinkler, so innovative!  Actually,  isn’t that what life’s about, taking moments like these, be it an hour, a day, or a few minutes to experience some downtime?

The Italians have a lovely expression, “dolce far niente,” meaning, the sweetness of doing nothing.  It doesn’t mean being lazy, it’s referring to the pleasure one gets from being idle or being in the moment.  Sounds wonderful, hard to do?  There never seems to be enough hours in the day,  it’s time to leave the guilt, chores and to-do-lists all behind.   I know this seems foreign for most of us,  it’s a lesson in letting go.   “Dolce far niente,” which the Italians have fully embraced as part of their culture and in their daily routines.   I think we can agree, Italian’s know a few things about how to savour the moment.

Savouring the moment and doing nothing, doesn’t mean sitting in a chair staring at a wall unless that’s your thing…I hate to think of all those special moments I missed because I was too busy being busy and then “poof” you wonder where the time went?

I recently downsized from a house to a townhouse, this was an exercise in letting go for sure.  I’m enjoying less is more, I guess I’ve always been a minimalist at heart, and it actually agrees with me.  Less stuff equals less clutter in my head…it also means more time for me to actually do or not do what I want.  The weekends are my favourite part of the week, most would agree, I’m stating the obvious.  I love having no plans, no workouts, no having to rush out in the mornings, I could literally spend the day lounging in my pj’s, drinking coffee and listening to music, it’s the best!  This would be my “dolce far niente” moment but how do I incorporate this “idle” into my day-to-day life?

“The definition of insanity is, doing the exact same fucking thing over and over again, expecting shit to change. That. Is. Crazy.”
 
So…change something, enjoy a walk at lunch instead of working at your desk, call a friend instead of texting, bake instead of buying, talk to your neighbours, take the dog for a walk in the opposite direction.  It’s not rocket science, just take the time for something that makes you happy or enjoyable once a day, whatever that is.  There are only so many hours in a day, and a few special moments, if you don’t stop and poke your head up every once in a while, you’ll miss it.  And like the photo of my boys, which was a precious moment, I’m grateful that I stopped to hear the laughter outside, the camera capturing it perfectly.
“Dolce far niente,” meaning, the sweetness of doing nothing.
How sweet nothing can be…

LC

 

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